A couple months ago I abruptly stopped my LEGO activity that was eating at me because I felt that I had to clear my living room of all the set bags I was storing in while awaiting for parts or building. With no end in sight, I ended up burning out until my partner suggested that we could put them away in a closet until I was ready to resume in a better mood.
Ever since, I've had trouble finishing tasks that I wanted to start in the first place:
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At the same time, I'm longing to find something else to do that will keep me engaged, locking me in a mixed apathy-restlessness feeling there probably is a German word for.
I don't know what to do to get out of this rut, I feel like it's been long enough that it would have passed on its own if it was just temporary.
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Schmaker
in reply to Hypolite Petovan • •@Hypolite Petovan
Every single thing is workout for your brain. Do you also do any physical activity?
I ended up on anti-depresives (even though in little dose) for like 2 years and even after quitting them I still had similar struggle time after time.
After pushing myself to some physical activities it seems like it's over as my mental condition seem to have recovered (finally)
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Hypolite Petovan
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Well, I started slowly by buying eScooter and use it instead of car for reaching my workplace. No need to have big goals early on.
At this moment I'm slowly moving to bicycle instead of eScooter in my spare time. As I'm not "pushing" myself anymore I figured out I look for reasons to "ride my bicycle" (Mr. Mercury approves 😀 )
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silverwizard
in reply to Hypolite Petovan • • •@Hypolite Petovan @Schmaker I seriously have this issue too - and I've been trying to figure that out for years. I've got a rowing machine because I can convince myself to row and watch TV< but I lost space for it when I needed a second kids room.
I don't have any good answers, but I feel like the pain of that
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Schmaker
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Can you please just confirm, that physical activity works well against this problem?
I want to know if I can give this as an advice to other or it was just coincidence in my case.
Thank you
silverwizard
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Them Prin Lu
in reply to Hypolite Petovan • • •@schmaker I don't know where you are, but walking in nature (hiking, trekking) is a physical activity that is focused on enjoying and appreciating the natural world, hills, mountains, landscape. is there a hiking club to do it with others? or maybe someone from the family, or close friend. ..
just ideas
Hypolite Petovan
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in reply to Hypolite Petovan • • •It doesn't sound easy @Hypolite Petovan
I recently heard about this Dutch word and concep of niksen, which basically means doing nothing.
I first thought it was a little bit strange. But then I learnt it really means letting go of the burdening ambivalence that we could doing something thereby preventing us of not enjoying the deliberate act of not doing anything.
I personally found this quite a revelation that somehow allowed me to be more focused.
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Brad Koehn ☑️
in reply to Hypolite Petovan • • •I use Apple Fitness+ for guided exercise, since like you I wouldn’t do it otherwise (and I have no idea what I’m doing, fitness-wise). There are plenty of good videos on YouTube that are free.
I now refer to exercise as “burning cortisol” since it has such an impact on lowering my stress level and improving my sleep. I’ve been at it three years; my doctor tells me I’m in great shape.
If you need a deeper reason, consider volunteering at for example a food pantry or a soup kitchen or the like; there’s plenty of physical activity, though it won’t get you as fit as a well-rounded exercise program. Going for walks outside with family and friends is easy and super beneficial to body and mind. Upgrading to a light jog until you’re winded is a great way to start running (a super-cheap activity that most people can do).
The fitness improvements you get when you start exercising are the most dramatic. Hopefully it’ll be enough to keep you coming back for more once you find something you like. The mental health benefits are immediate, but are most apparent after just a few weeks.
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KAOS
in reply to Hypolite Petovan • • •If this is out of character for you, I understand it's bugging you.
Regarding myself... well, I tend to have many interests, and each one lasts for a while, but then I have enough of it or something new comes along and takes up all of my attention and energy. Then I put it away, like you did. And I used to feel bad for being like that, but now I'm fine with it - because it's just how my brain works, and activities that I really enjoyed will usually come back to me after a year or two, or even longer. Knowing that makes it easier for me to allow myself a break.
But I know I can only speak for myself here, so Idk if this approach would help you or rather not.
Hypolite Petovan
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